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About Kristen
I was married for 22 years, to a woman I loved. I didn’t think of it as “abuse.” I thought I was the problem—too sensitive, not good enough, always doing it wrong. The change was slow, like the frog in the pot. I adapted, apologized, and tried harder.
Control crept in. Money was monitored. I once texted photos of toothpaste from the store so I’d bring home the “right” one. I learned to ask permission for tiny choices. When I finally said I wanted to move out, I was told I couldn’t. I believed it—until a friend said, “You’re 55. You don’t need permission.” I moved out when she was out of town.
Hearing others describe my exact reality cracked the mirror. A support group and the book It’s Not You put words to what I couldn’t name. The fog started to lift. Leaving wasn’t one big decision—it was a series of clear, grounded steps back to myself.
I coach from that place now—practical, trauma-aware, and LGBTQ+ affirming—because I know how disorienting it is to feel erased by slow conditioning. If any part of this sounds like your life, you’re not alone—and you’re not “too much.” You’ve been surviving.
